Safely in North Carolina

We have all arrived safely in North Carolina. Hope had a major rage when we stopped for dinner last night. She has only had one short (25 minute) rage today. Today she was set off by the word “no”, which is almost always a trigger for her. Last night, she was sleeping when we stopped for dinner and woke up raging. The shrink and the waiver worker are saying she will be hospitalized if we can’t stop the raging. The Dad is resistant to outside the home respite and to PRN meds. It doesn’t sound like he is going to have much of a choice. The whole situation is depressing.


At least I get to spend 3 days with my sister and niece. They are a lot alike!

5 thoughts on “Safely in North Carolina

  1. I love your blog and feel I have learned a lot from you. I have learned never to say NO. I get around it all kinds of ways… like “I really wish you could sweetie!” or “Is that the best possible idea right now? ” Also instead of giving directions I ask questions. “Would you like to brush your teeth?” ” Let's grab your shoes and clothes and if you want to, you can get dressed in the car!” (And if you don't, who cares, people go to the mall in PJs nowadays!) Am I being to lax? My kid is 14 and can be very oppositional if you don't know how to talk to him… Anna

  2. @ Anna: If I asked Hope if she wanted to brush her teeth, the answer would always be no. If I say “we will go downstairs after you brush your teeth” I have a 50/50 chance she will do it with out a fuss.I do limit the NOs Hope hears, but sometimes there is no choice. I can't tell you if you are being too lax with your kid, as I do not know either of you. Just remember that 14 is getting close to the time where the inability to take no for an answer can hurt him out in the real world. PJ's are not worth fighting about.

  3. I feel bad for you and the family, for sure, and I hope better options and answers present themselves.

    I can't help feeling sorry for Hope because it must take so much energy to fight everything, all the time.

    Is it possible to know when she is able to control her behavior, and choosing not to, or not?

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