The Power of the Ordinary

Last weekend, The Dad and I took the kids to visit my friend and her family in Pennsylvania. Despite three special needs kids, we had family fun, a Trauma Mama EFT conference call, an IEP a meeting with a limited bureaucrat that lasted three hours longer than his knowledge, an adoption seminar, swimming, and even took everybody to Friendly*s. The kids had no meltdowns, lots of fun, and the adults had ADULT CONVERSATION. Sure, the kids required constant monitoring and frequent intervention… but there were four adults to do it. At other times we have gone to the zoo, horseback riding at a resort, and swimming mixed into everything. The kids love to swim.


The Power? Besides adult conversation, of course. Our kids are not “special needs” when our families are together. The structure, the rules are just what they are. They are not compared to what other children can do. Pull-ups at night, medication, quiet times… they just are. Some how, this gives our kids the gift of just  being kids. Enjoying the normal activities that go with childhood. They are friends that share a growing stash of memories and look forward to what comes next.

The connection is a normal connection between families that are friends. The more the connections, the better. For our kids. For us.

8 thoughts on “The Power of the Ordinary

  1. LOVE this! It is so wonderful to watch my son get together with other kids with similar needs. No one needs to talk about it, they all just understand and have fun. It is magical. So glad you got that time together!

  2. Nothing more precious than when our son is able to get together with other kids who “get” him. He is free to simply be himself then. Love you all!

  3. “Despite three special needs kids, we had family fun, a Trauma Mama EFT conference call, an IEP a meeting with a limited bureaucrat that lasted three hours longer than his knowledge”

    Yes, in a family, they must sometimes practice EFT so that some problems may addressed, kids may learn to accept some failures and mistakes.

  4. Still laughing at the “meeting with a limited bureaucrat that lasted three hours longer than his knowledge” bit! You didn't even mention the crying woman that was sitting next to you in the meeting! lol

    I am so lucky to have you as my friend! And that our families do so well together! It was a great weekend, despite my stress/anxiety/frustration over the IEP meeting.

    Looking forward to our next family get-together!

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