Puberty and Shopping

GB sat me down for a heart to heart talk over the weekend.

GB: Mom, you know I am growing up, right?

Me: I know that. You can do a lot of things now that you couldn’t do before.

GB: That’s not what I mean. I mean my body is growing up.

Me: Oh.

GB: I am getting hair down there. (pointing)

Me: That’s called pubic hair.

GB: I have hair in my armpits now. I have real breasts growing.

Me: You are growing up.

GB: I NEED real bras.

So GB and I went “real” bra shopping. We went to Penney’s and had her measured and fitted. She was a 32A. I remember getting my first bra at thirteen and it was a 32AAA. GB is not nine yet. We bought 7 bras- some white, some tan and three with bright patterns.

On the way home, GB and I discussed the etiquette of wearing a bra, mostly along the lines of if you are old enough to need to wear one, you are old enough not to tell or show people. As we had this conversation, I was wondering how many times I would have to repeat it. This is a child who won’t let anyone walk in on her getting dressed, but thinks nothing of walking nude around the house, looking for a particular item of clothing. She still thinks bathroom humor is hysterical. Developmentally, she is somewhere around 5, heading for 6.

I am not ready for puberty yet.

7 thoughts on “Puberty and Shopping

  1. A was abt 8 when she started with pubic hair and bras. It was another 18 months before she hit the next stage. Right before her 11 th bd.What a sweet girl!! Hopefully, she will be able to remember to be modest and not flash them.

  2. Trauma often triggers early puberty, I didn't know my adopted daughter until she was 11, but she already had hair and breast "buds." For both my girls we started with sports bras since they were still growing (both ended up with at least D cups!). What a sweet moment with GB! Hugs!Mary

  3. Little late, but I wonder, are hormone blockers feasible? I have no idea what the side effects are, and I can imagine not wanting to put GB on ANOTHER medication, but being able to delay her entering full-blown puberty until a slightly more reasonable age seems like it might be worth looking into.

    …or I could be offering yet more assvice you didn’t need!

    All the best to you and yours, always.

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