A lot of my friends are “trauma mamas”. I was fortunate enough to be able to go to Orlando last year (You can read about it here) and met the most amazing people in the world. They were also parenting traumatized kids and they “got it”. They knew at a level beyond words what my life was like and how much energy I pour into my girls. I still have regular contact with a lot of them and that contact keeps me sane, especially when the world is telling me, in one form or another, that I am the crazy one. I am blessed by each one in my life.
One of the women, who happens to be a cornerstone in my life and the life of many others, has hit a rough patch of her own. All of us trauma mamas get it.
Most A lot of the outside world does not. And without knowing what our kids have lived through, the obstacle courses we have run, looking for help, and the behaviors our families have had to deal with while trying to heal our traumatized kids, people who know nothing about our world pass judgement. Some of them, acting out from their own hurts and fears, get very nasty about it. So to my friend, I say “You are an awesome human being. Mean people suck. Do not listen to them”.
And if you happen to be friends with a trauma mama, today would be a good day to go give them some love.