At three minutes after 8 am this morning, Hope Faith became legally our forever child. We celebrated by going back to the hotel and swimming. Hope had several bouts of “I don’t want to be adopted”, intermixed with “I want to go home” and one ” I hate you! You are an ugly Mommy”. She really likes the water and even let me catch a couple of quick cuddles while we were “swimming”. When we came back, Hope put on panties and informed me she was too big for pull-ups. Seven hours later, she is accident free. We drove to have lunch with Mom in the Trench and 6 of her children. We found a Mcdonalds with a play ground and the kids had a blast. GB, as usual, tried to run everything and MITT’s kids were happy to let her. I will go on the record- MITT is as smart in person as on her blog. I had a really good time.
About the time the girls had about enough of everything, it was time to go anyway. Hope started showing her aggression and anger- and she has a lot of both. She definitely feels safer around men. She was pushing, hitting and poking GB, so GB’s Dad took her for a walk. Hope dissolved into a wild mess of fear. She was screaming, flailing on the floor, and throwing things. When I was silly enough to get close, she scratched, kicked and hit me. She tried to bite me, but I saw it coming. When the Dad came back, Hope melted into his arms. It took an hour for her to truly calm down. GB is even closer to the edge then she was… she doesn’t take physical aggression well. We have to figure out a better system for protecting her- especially in the car. Sometimes I will be driving and then there will be no safety officer protecting GB. Today was a much better day than I had any right to expect.